As a spiritual guidance coach/counselor I pride myself in living a life where I practise what I preach, although I am not perfect. I try not to beat myself up when I fall short because there are times that living or being in the human body has its limitations and imperfections. However I NEVER forget that I am a spiritual being living a human existence. As a spiritual being I am powerful, I am amazing, I am divine, I am limitless, I am love, I am abundance, I am all that I want to be, and so are YOU. Why not make these statements your daily affirmations until you really start to feel and believe them to be true.
Sometimes when we go on our journey of healing we go to many seminars, read self-help books and really enjoy what we are hearing and digesting. However, a little while after we may end up back in some of our negative ways of being and living. The reason for this could be that we have digested the information on an intellectual level, we understand it and we agree with it but oftentimes we don’t get it on an emotional level. What I mean is you may understand and agree that you went through some kind of trauma or very challenging situation and recognise how it’s contributed to the way you are today and some of the decisions you have made, but have you dealt with it on an emotional level? When you talk about the said event or situation are you filled with lots of negative emotion? Do you still feel angry, and if you do what else is behind the anger? It could be pain, sadness, shame or even guilt. If you are still feeling strong negative emotions, then unfortunately healing is still yet to take place on an emotional level and maybe even on a psychological level. Some of us are still suffering on an emotional level and hence your emotional intelligence could still be that of a young child. When I entered into rehab as a 38 year old woman, I was informed that my emotional age was that of a 6 year old. I was horrified and realised that I had so much work to do to bring my emotional age up to my biological age.
My message to you is don’t be hard on yourself, give yourself a break, treat yourself with unconditional love, know that you are worthy of help, healing and love. Learning to re-parent yourself is of the utmost importance, this is part of self-love and self-care. Showing yourself much compassion, forgiveness, patience and love as you would a child is what is needed. As you go through this process of healing you will increase your emotional intelligence, you will foster a healthier relationship with yourself and ultimately be able to have healthier relationships with others. As the law of attraction states, you are what you attract. Trust that you are where you are meant to be right now and that you will heal on a deep level when your time is right. If your time is now, then please let’s talk. They say it’s good to talk, and in my experience that is an understatement, it’s more than good, it’s necessary.