Mindfulness

MINDFULNESS

I attended a mindfulness workshop at the weekend and I had such a good time I just wanted to share some of my experience with you. It took place in the beautiful Buddhapapdipa Temple in Wimbledon. The grounds were beautiful surrounded by nature and a lovely lake. What better place to spend the day.
Mindfulness means:

a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.

At the workshop we spoke about mindfulness, spirituality, dharma, Buddhism, meditation, all connected to mindfulness. I meditated whilst walking, standing still, lying down and while doing one of my favourite things, hugging a tree. Whilst hugging the tree I felt the exchange of energy quite profoundly, it was a great sensation; feeling at one with nature. As I walked and meditated I slowed my pace right down and noticed things I wouldn’t normally. What really excited me was the way the sun shone on the lake, it was a beautiful sight. I wanted to get my phone out and share it with everyone; however I refrained from doing so because it was during the time of silent meditation. Yes, we had 1 hour 15 minutes to be completely silent and I felt that taking the phone out would interrupt this. In fact the whole time I was there I did not take my phone out. Now that was a freeing experience, to not be disturbed or distracted by technology for 5 whole hours.

I am contemplating going on a 3 or 6 day silent retreat. This will be very challenging but I feel it would help me in many ways. Not just with my work of helping you gain inner peace but helping me grow and develop my spiritual gifts. You see, meditation is very powerful and for me, it allows me to travel on the astral plane and receive great messages and affording me even more inner peace.

I actually incorporate Mindfulness into my therapy with clients as I notice that many people are so detached from their feelings and will do all sorts of things to avoid them. However, as emotional beings we will have feelings and emotions and learning to embrace, accept and deal with them is so important for our mental health, well-being and spiritual awakening.

So how can mindfulness help you? Well it encourages you to slow down and be more aware. Being aware of how you feel on an emotional and physical level, your surroundings, your thoughts, the messages you say to yourself are all important factors to be aware of. To be aware of how you eat too can be very beneficial. Do you eat quickly not giving your brain enough time to register that you have eaten? Try taking the time to eat a piece of fruit, be aware of its texture, its taste, its juiciness and how it feels on your tongue, how it feels when you swallow it and how your stomach welcomes it, or not, as the case may be.

If you suffer from anxiety, mindfulness will definitely help alleviate that. When you get an attack, focus on what is happening in your body, how does your stomach feel? Do your palms sweat? What thoughts are you thinking, and are the thoughts rushing around like a washing machine? Once you focus in you can then start to slow yourself down by breathing slowly and deeply and get into a meditative state. Analyse the effects as you start to slow down and see how much calmer you feel.

These are just a few tips on how mindfulness can help you and I would highly recommend it. I hope you have enjoyed reading about my experiences at the weekend, please feel free to share. If you would like to join the mindfulness group here are the details: www.meditationcircle.co.uk Have a
wonderful week ahead.

Love and light

Are you being honest?

honesty
To be honest means to be truthful, sincere; able to be trusted, loyal and fair. If you display honesty it shows a good moral character that is positive and full of integrity, someone who is transparent and authentic.

With that in mind, are you an honest person? If so, to what degree? It’s a good question to ask oneself because I am sure we would all like to consider ourselves to be honest but upon closer reflection how honest are you? But what is more important is HOW HONEST WITH YOURSELF ARE YOU? This question is vital. Ponder on it for a while.

Many people wear a mask that they show to the world – this makes me think of the song Tears of a Clown:

“… if there’s a smile on my face, it’s only there trying to fool the public… but when it comes down to fooling you, now honey that’s quite a different subject. But don’t let my glad expression give you the wrong impression really I’m sad, oh I’m sadder than sad …..”

Considering the above, how often do you go around with a smile on your face when deep inside you are feeling sad. I remember the days when I use to deal with difficult and sad situations by joking around and laughing. It worked a treat and stopped me from dealing with my negative emotions. I became so good at it that I became an amateur comedienne (and I was good at it too). However, after time the negative emotions continued to build up inside until they had the chance to explode once I entered into rehab and my drug of choice (food) was taken away from me.

Hiding behind a mask is the most dishonest thing you can do to yourself. You are lying to yourself and not allowing yourself to be YOU, to be AUTHENTIC. Do you know how tiring it is to pretend?

Oftentimes people fear being judged for being real and showing their true selves, they feel that people will prefer them to be a certain way, when actually people prefer realness. I know that when I come across people who are not being authentic it irritates me but I also feel very sad for them. How awful it must be to be so fearful of not being real and true to who you are. It causes depression and much more.

So I implore you to be honest with yourself, stop hiding behind the mask. Lift the veil and embrace you, be integral and sincere. People will love to see the real you because it makes them feel so much more comfortable around you. In addition you will display lots of positive vibes and the added qualities that go alongside behind honest such as loyalty and sincerity. So I ask you now will the real YOU please stand up!

Love and Light xx

What it means to be Divine

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As a divine being, that is what you are – you are love. This means that you are deserving of love. You are a manifestation of the divine source and deserve all the wonderful things that the universe has to offer.

If your life is not showing this it means that you have not accepted your divinity in its fullest form. Do you love yourself enough to treat your body as a temple? Do you treat yourself with tender loving care? Do you allow others to treat you disrespectfully, unfairly or abuse you? Yes, people will try but you have the power to not allow or accept it. Are you able to stand up for yourself and say enough is enough? Can you stand in your power and command respect and fairness? Have you embraced and can you harness your divine power?

By the mere fact that you were born you are divine. Do not ever forget that. Even though you may feel that you have had a rough deal thus far; you may have had much suffering in your life. That does not mean you have to and will continue to suffer. We all have our unique journeys and your own path will be filled with pains which I like to call growing pains. As you grow, you learn and you become stronger, you awaken and your vibration raises day by day. When your vibration is of a high frequency you will attract the best that life has to offer. We do live in an abundant universe and in order to receive this abundance your vibration has to be high, you have to stop coming from a place of lack. Focus on the good, focus on what you do have, show gratitude and you will receive because you are divine.

As a divine being you are limitless, you can achieve whatever it is you put your mind to. You have infinite power and once you tap into it you can create. You are a creator! Tapping into your divinity will allow you to realise your highest potential. Are you plugged into your infinite power? Below is a short list of some of the simple things you can do to help you raise your vibration and tap into your divine power.

1. Do a gratitude list every day
2. Meditate daily
3. Deal with and heal from your past
4. Surround yourself with positive activities and people
5. Focus on the good
6. Treat yourself with tender loving care

It is time for you to manifest, time to create and time to receive. You are divine!

Kundalini Yoga

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I remember the first time I tried this type of yoga. It was exhilarating and freeing. I had lapsed on my regular routine. However, I took the time out to do it yesterday and oh what an experience. My soul had been longing for it. Not only was it exhilarating and freeing, it felt quite mind blowing.

Throughout the day I was continually drinking water, more than my normal amount for the day and I was wondering why am I so thirsty. Then it dawned on me; the yoga exercise is also very detoxifying. Some of the moves help you to release toxins out of your body. In addition some release natural medicines in the body. For the physical benefits alone, I would highly recommend you try Kundalini Yoga .
What is Kundalini Yoga ?

It is an elevating combination of spiritual and physical practices; Kundalini Yoga integrates vibrant breathing techniques, meditation, movement and the chanting of mantras, such as Sat Nam, which means truth is my name. The goal of Kundalini Yoga is to build physical vitality and increase consciousness. These practices enable you to merge with your higher self, your innate wisdom which helps you to tap into all the answers within and reach your highest potential. This merging of individual consciousness with universal consciousness creates a divine union.

It is a very powerful energy contained in each and every one of us, and for some people once awoken can be an extremely potent experience assisting with transformation and personal development. Kundalini Yoga stimulates individual growth through systematic techniques that strengthen the nervous system and balance the glandular system (the guardians of health), for increased stability and vitality. This energy is symbolised by the snake going through the back of our spine. This is a similar symbol used in many health institutions, which denotes the healing power of the Kundalini energy. It helps to balance mind, body and soul.

So if you have never tried it before, I recommend you do, and if you have, continue to enjoy the wonderful experience.

Love and light

Muhammad Ali

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Muhammad Ali – may he rest in eternal peace.  What a man!  What words come to your mind as you remember him?  Great, greatest, hero, legend, activist, courageous, determined, warrior, fighter the list goes on.

Muhammad Ali lived his life purpose and he will be remembered for a very long time.  We all have a purpose; this is something I talk about a lot.  However, have you ever thought about what your legacy will be?  How will people remember you?  The whole world may not remember you as they remember Ali, but those that know you, those that will attend your funeral, what words will they use to describe you?  What words would you want them to use?  How do you want to be remembered?

I know nobody wants to think of their funeral as we do not want to tempt fate, this is not the purpose of this blog, but these thought provoking questions are to help you really reflect on your life and how you are living it.  These questions will help you to really think about whether you are living your life purpose and to seriously think about your legacy.  No matter who you are, you leave a legacy.  Why not leave a great legacy behind.  You do this by stepping into your power and living your soul’s purpose.

It has been a very long time that I have not quoted Marianne Williamson’s words, which I quote on my website:  Check them out here. Now is the time to act, now is the time to be really inspired into action as you celebrate the life and times of the Great Muhammad Ali.  Follow in his footsteps, be courageous, be brilliant and stand for what you believe in, live your purpose with no apology and leave your legacy.

Are you a sensitive soul?

I always say there are two types of people in this world

Type A
Type B

Very simply, type A are the sensitive souls, the people who will go out of their way to help others, the type that would never intentionally hurt anyone; lovely, generous people.

Type B are the not so sensitive souls, the ones who take take take and do not think much the consequences of their actions and often upset the sensitive souls. Now I am not here to judge type B because they are who they are.
The sensitive souls are the ones that end up in my therapy room, often broken, lacking self-esteem, needing help to overcome their past, the hurts, the pains, the traumas that they have experienced. You see, a sensitive soul feels things on a deeper level; because of their sensitivity they are more affected. They often feel weak because of this, but I am here to tell you, this does not make you weak. You are strong in your own unique way.

A sensitive soul will often suffer from anxiety, social phobia, depression and addiction to name a few. If you are a sensitive soul and this has happened to you then it means you have been trying to cope with all that’s happened to you for far too long. Your mind, body and soul cannot cope anymore with the negative or unhelpful ways that you have been trying to cope. You often seek solace in unhealthy habits in order to mask or overcome your sensitive nature. You do not allow yourself to be authentic, to your own detriment. You often put others before yourself and neglect your own needs and wants. It is time to take affirmative action.

The world needs sensitive souls and the world needs you to heal so that you can shine your light in this darkened world. It’s time that the sensitive souls stand up and claim their rightful place and feel safe in this world that can sometimes feel too harsh for them. By embracing your sensitive nature you can just be and by healing you can ward off and protect yourself from type B and not allow them to treat you in a disrespectful or unloving way. You can learn to have healthy boundaries that protect you. You can start to feel confident, proud and strong. You are a gift to the world and by thus healing from your past you can do amazing things and make this world a better place.

Slow Down

 

Mercury in Retrograde is finally over.  I don’t know about you but I found it a tad irritating when it came to working on my laptop.  Slow slow slow. However, sometimes we have to slow down in life in order to take stock and reflect.  Is this something that you do?

Reflection is the ability to look back and analyse and see how, why, when, what if etc.  Reflection is all about learning and growing from our experiences.  We are here to grow and learn not stand still; imagine a baby not growing and learning – hard to imagine that isn’t it?  Life is a continuous journey of growth and development.  Not growing and learning can become very frustrating and standing around in a stagnant state is not good for your soul. When you reflect you give yourself the ability to move forward in life and make necessary changes.

Slowing down also gives you time to just be, time to smell the flowers and reconnect to our inner being.  Never forget that we are a human being and not a human doing.  We can get so caught up in doing; rushing around here there and everywhere.  When this happens we can run out of steam and end up not really taking care of ourselves. We also weaken our connection to source energy.

When you take time out to just be and reflect you are showing yourself love.  You will have the time to do the things that really matter and not get caught up in the trivialities of life.  Try keeping things simple and see how much calmer you feel. Western society is moving at a fast pace, we are bombarded with so much information wherever we go, bill boards, TV, adverts, announcements on public transport.  With such a barrage of external information it is no wonder that we can become bogged down and distracted.  Our soul needs quiet time to rejuvenate.  So take the time to slow down; reflect, meditate and enjoy the just being.

Nourish Your Soul

As a spiritual being we need to nourish our soul. Just as you would feed and nourish your physical body you need to do the same for your soul. It makes absolute sense doesn’t it? How can we possibly exist in harmony, feeling complete without doing so?

Many people do not feed and nourish their soul, for varying reasons:

• They do not know how, because they were never taught
• Some have become wrapped up in addictions
• Due to life experiences, some have developed destructive behaviours and habits
• Society bombards us with messages – many subliminal – that take us away from doing so
• We become too busy because of the way society is structured and somewhat engineered

This is a very sad thing because it means many of us are wondering around as lost souls, disconnected, lonely, sad and depressed. Scrambling around trying to fill an empty hole with everything but what it really needs. By doing so, they will never feel satisfied, full-filled, whole and content. How can you neglect such a major part of who you are and think that you will feel ok? Quite simply, you cannot. You must honour who you are as a spiritual being. How can you do this?

There are many ways that this can be done, and there is no need to feel it is a burden, take it slowly to start off with and ease yourself into living a more spiritually based life where you will start to feel connected, content and fulfilled. Here are some simple suggestions:

Meditation – If you have not meditated before, then start off with just 10 minutes and build up, try guided meditation and never think you are doing it wrong just because you cannot get rid of the constant thoughts; it takes time and practise.

Yoga – a gentle form of exercise that helps you connect to your higher self, great for your posture too.
Read – yes read spiritual books and self-help books on topics such as personal development and self-discovery. There are many books that I can recommend to you, send me an email and I will be more than happy to give you some recommendations.

These are just to get you started; I will give you more suggestions in my next blog so stay connected for updates. Remember, it is important that you take some time out in each day to nourish your soul. Time to nurture and cherish your higher self and watch the magic unfold as your higher-self starts to work at its optimum level.

Love and light always

Nourishing Your Soul Part 2

Last week I spoke about nourishing your soul. How have you been getting on with this? Have you been able to follow some simple guided meditations? I do hope so, meditation is a very powerful tool when practised on a regular basis.

Depending on where you are at on your spiritual journey, you can also try attending healing and/or sacred circles. They consist of a group of women who come together for, not just healing, but empowerment, identification and looking deeper into the spiritual aspects of perhaps, physical ailments and dis-ease. Some circles just celebrate the goddess within each and every one of you. This could be in the form of sacred dances or rituals. I took part in a trance dance last week whereby I danced blindfolded, as did everybody else. We let ourselves go to the beat of the drums and it was a very freeing and liberating time. You allow yourself to be guided by the music and do whatever comes naturally to you without any cares of who may be watching. It’s a very powerful experience; that much I can tell you.

If you are not ready for trance dancing just yet, that is absolutely fine, what I love about life is that everyone is on their own personal journey; at different stages and it is always good to remember and respect that. A simple walk in the park connecting with mother earth and nature are also a great way to nourish your soul. If you live in the city sometimes our energy can become so depleted with stale, air conditioned and stagnant air; the fumes from factories and vehicles and the constant noise as well as the flashing lights of adverts etc can just wreak havoc on our psyche. This is when a call for nature comes in. Fresh air for one to breathe in and relax giving you time to recuperate and ground yourself. I literally hug trees, and yes I was very conscious of doing so when I first started, but now I do so without worrying what other people think of me. Hugging a tree can help give you some much needed energy as I often feel energised straight after. If you are feeling adventurous why not take a trip to the beach, this too is a very relaxing and healing experience, the sea has so much healing properties, even just the sound of it. Connecting with nature can also prove to be very inspiring and may spur you on with your latest or next project.

What makes you tick? What are your talents? Why not find groups that share the same ethos, values and talents as you? This is yet another way that your soul will feel nourished. Surround yourself with kindred spirit, those who are on a journey of self-development also. It’s no good being around nay slayers and people who want to bring you down. Surround yourself with positive people. Have a great week nourishing your soul.

Inner Peace

What thoughts and feelings do you conjure up when you think of inner peace? Do you get a warm fuzzy feeling? Do you sometimes think that it is not possible to gain inner peace? With so much going on in the world, so many distractions, stresses, problems and responsibilities it can sometimes feel that it is impossible to attain inner peace. However, I am here to tell you differently that it is absolutely possible and only you can make it happen.

Inner peace is the ability to feel contented, calm and happy even when things outside of you are not so good. Acceptance is the key. When you accept that you cannot really control people, places and things you begin to feel free and liberated; this will enhance your inner peace. When something untoward happens and you do not accept it you may try to control it, you may worry endlessly about it (worry is a very wasted energy) and that will affect your inner peace. Going with the ebb and flow of life is what you need to do rather than fighting against it.
Having inner peace enhances your life in so many ways – a good friend of mines mother died a couple of weeks ago and the way she has dealt with it is remarkable. Yes she is sad that her mother is no longer here, but she accepts death for what it is i.e. passing onto the other side and going home to source energy/creator/god. Our time here on earth is just part of our journey as spirit beings. Because my friend views death in this way she is not allowing the passing of her mother to affect her inner peace. How powerful is that!

Your inner peace may be affected by your past; you may have suffered some terrible traumas, and had some very sad times and been to dark places. This will definitely affect your inner peace; however, you can do something about it. You can deal with your past, explore it, learn the lessons and heal from your past. By doing so and eventually letting go of your past you will begin to find inner peace. You have to do something about it; you cannot just sit in your stuff and expect inner peace to come to you. However, when you do decide to do something you will wonder why you never took action sooner. Inner peace is definitely possible and it is a wonderful feeling to have, it is an amazing way to live your life. If inner peace eludes you please get in touch with me, and let’s talk about how I can help you. I am looking for 10 women to work with over a 3 month period. Over this time your life will be transformed, you will gain inner peace and you will be living your life purpose.

Love and light always