Letting Go Of Toxic Relationships.

Do you often struggle to leave a toxic relationship? Or even if you have left, you find yourself being drawn back in somehow and you wonder how that happened? This could be a friendship, situationship, family members or romantic partner.

You know this relationship is not good for you on some level, especially emotionally, yet you return. When you do return nothing really changes, just a repetition of the same old cycles.

This is time for a chord cutting. The reason why you return could be that as my mother would say “you ears hard”, “those who can’t hear will feel”; in essence, you just haven’t learned your karmic lesson yet. Or you are still connected energetically, and this could be because the other person is still holding on. If this is the case a chord cutting exercise is necessary.

Your energy centre is still connected to theirs and once you are able to cut this energetic chord it will be easier to let go of this relationship that no longer serves you.

How to do a chord cutting?

You can find a guided meditation on YouTube that’s talks you through the process. Or if you are comfortable doing it solo, just get yourself into a meditative state. Imagine this person in front of you. See and feel the energy chords attached to each other from your centre, solar plexus. Imagine you have a pair of large golden scissors and with strong emotional intent cut the energetic chord that runs between the two of you.

Then bless them with whatever it is you need to say. Thank them for the lessons they brought to you, the children they gave you, or whatever the circumstances between the two of you.

Hold them in loving kindness and wish them well as they embark on their individual path. See them float away from you in love, and let them go.

Then replace that space with loving energy, allow your solar plexus to be filled up with bright yellow energy, imagine, your solar plexus spinning around as it absorbs this energy. Sit for a while and glean any messages that may come to you. When you are ready, close down your solar plexus and come back into full waking consciousness.

I hope this helps you to break free from old relationships that no longer serve you.


The lunar eclipse is bringing in fresh energy

The lunar eclipse is bringing in fresh energy, like drinking fresh clean spring water, clearing and cleansing us from all the old habits and beliefs about ourselves. The energy will guide us to change our stories that we repeatedly recite about ourselves, stories that no longer resonate with our soul.

This is now the time to align yourself to your soul purpose, be ready to pick up your baton and run with it. Your guides ask you to have faith in all that is happening around you, even if it feels uncomfortable, weird and scary, just trust that your highest good will be served. Imagine the hands of a living parent cupped around your face showing you unconditional love and feel this love ignite your soul as you are guided and supported along your chosen path.

You are being called to live in love, to personify your true essence of love. Let go, release and trust is what your guides are asking you to do. Portals of light energy are opening up to help raise the vibration of mama earth and those of us living on her. This is a sacred time, the benevolent beings are busy ushering in light rays for us to seek the light within us and shine it out in this world. Be a part of the love revolution. Downloaded message from the Reincarnation of the Divine Luminous Souls.


So I have just facilitated my second healing meditation workshop which was fantastic, by the way. It focussed on honouring your divinity; this was also aligned with a new moon meditation which reaches us on the 2nd July 2019. This new moon is also in line with a solar eclipse.

This energy is bringing in a ‘shake it up’ type of energy, a time for us to shake things a little and step up to opportunities. It feels like we need to get that rug from underneath our feet, shake it out and get rid of stagnant energy that is floating around in our lives.

It is a time to really step up with self-care activities, time to nurture yourself on all levels, physical, spiritual, emotional and psychological. Giving yourself what you need in order to navigate through this tumultuous time.

How are you with boundaries? Do you lack them? Well if so, start getting into the practise of setting firm boundaries for yourself, put yourself first, look after yourself and your needs, and make this a priority. When you do this you garner more respect and are more able to be there for others if so choose; our needs count just as much as anyone else’s. Learn to say NO without any apology, explanation or justification.

Once you start this process you will see how you have created more space for opportunities and positivity to enter into your life. Is there a project you have been putting off (although with mercury entering retrograde on the 7th July, this is not a good time to start a new project). However, the project of self-love is one such project that deserves your urgent attention.

As spiritual beings having a human experience we must remember to nurture and feed our soul, when we neglect this part of us, we turn to self-destructive habits that do not serve our highest good. Our souls are crying out for attention, how can we continue to neglect our souls, especially at this crucial time when we are ascending into higher dimensional living? Honouring our divine self is absolutely vital. Tap into your divine self, respect and honour that part of you and you will be greatly rewarded. A feeling of contentment, purpose and fulfilment is yours for the taking, but you have to take it, grab it with both hands. Walking around aimlessly and lost is soul destroying and depressing. You have a choice, choose wisely.

My next meditation will focus on healing the inner child and letting go of fear. Why not join me for another powerful healing experience as we delve into the dark spaces of our psyche and heal some of those wounds, let go of debilitating fear, allowing us to propel forwards in confidence, love and light.

The Power of Meditation

Meditation is an age old practice that has so many benefits, including physical health. It is a time to be still, to connect to our higher consciousness. There is a saying that praying is talking to God and meditation is listening for the answers. Many people rush around on a daily basis without this basic need to be at one with self. If you are too busy to meditate for at least 10 minutes a day, then you need to meditate for 40 minutes.
We live in a very fast paced society and sometimes this need is neglected, to our own detriment, the more we run around the more stressful our lives become, the more we don’t find time for self-care, eating properly and so on. By meditating daily we allow ourselves this deep connection to just be, get into balance so we can operate at optimum level in a calm manner.
So what are just some of the health benefits of meditating?

  • Your ability to handle stress increases, which in turn, reduces stress
  • Better brain function due to the increased flow of blood to the brain
  • Increases serotonin and dopamine – feel good factors
  • Allows your muscles to relax
  • Meditation actually slows down the aging process
  • You feel less depressed, hence less isolation
  • Improves your psychological well-being.
  • Can alleviate high blood pressure
  • Your immune system functions more efficiently
  • Improves your mood – creates a more positive mind-set
  • You gain more clarity.
  • Increases positive emotions, emotional stability and intelligence
  • Improves your capacity to learn

These benefits are scientifically proven. And on a spiritual level, meditation helps you to feel more connected to yourself and others. You gain a better understanding of yourself on a micro and macro level, finding your true purpose. You will gain an inner strength which will assist you in dealing with life’s curve balls in a more efficient manner. Your intuition will develop, hence allowing you to trust it more and operate from a place of insight as opposed to hindsight. This can prove very powerful when you are faced with difficult decisions.
I hope you have found this article helpful and are encouraged to start or improve your daily meditation practice.

Timely Message at Solar Eclipse

The solar eclipse was a very important time for us here on planet earth. It brought in new light energy to raise the vibration for planet earth and for us too. These energies are helping us ascend into a new dimension where we will be focused more on the heart energy. This is a powerful time of cleansing, healing and transformation.

How have you found this time? Have you embraced this new energy? Is it helping you transform? I myself have had a time of shifting and transforming, it’s not been plain sailing as my energy field adjusts and embracing this shift. Within this time I have been called upon by my guides to channel this important message which I am sharing with you:

We are heading for a time of destruction, destruction of the human race as we know it. It is time for great changes to occur. Do not be scared if you are on the right path you will survive. Humanity is heading into a new dimension, one where all things heart centred and spiritual will be at the forefront. It is time for this change to happen; it is time to keep up with this change.

Who are you? What do you do? Are you ready and willing to do the work, the inner work? You need to be otherwise you will end up crazy; you will not fit into the new world order of things. You cannot afford to not listen to this message; YOU cannot afford to ignore this message. It is in your best interest. We come with good news too. We are here to help you attain this higher vibration; we are here to help you heal. You only need call on us and we are there in a swift. You can call on us anytime day or night. We are waiting patiently for your call. We are spirit and we will do what we have to do to make these changes happen. It is spoken, it is divine. It will be done regardless.

Many of you are not even aware of this transition, we laugh because so much has been going on right in front of your face; we laugh because it is clear as day. You are being brain washed, you are being dumbed down. Stop eating the crap, stop watching the crap, stop reading and listening to the crap. Cleanse Cleanse Cleanse is what we ask of you, If only you would do this, for yourselves. Are you not tired of the way things are on this planet? Do you not want change? Who are you waiting on for change? Be the change yourselves. It is within your power to make this change collectively.

You cannot rely on anything outside of you, apart from this collective consciousness that you are a part of, can you not see that collectively you are the ones causing this chaos? Stay in your negative mind-sets and you will see how detrimental this will be to your human race. You will regret even coming down to this planet. This planet is in dire straits. You have to make the difference; it is for you to do what you have to do.

We spirit are here to help you, we can guide you, we can help you but we will not do it for you. Call on us, call on your ancestors too, so many of your ancestors need healing too. They will heal through your healing. Go and heal thyself beloved. Raise that vibration and get your connection right with source energy. You are powerful more than you ever know, it is time you reconnect and realise your potential. Human!?? You are not just human, oh my goodness me, what are you thinking? Oh you are not thinking straight, you are in a coma, come out of this sleep. Get your consciousness out of the gutter. You are so much more than you think you are. We have spoken.

We have spoken and we are becoming agitated with your non engagement and your nonchalance, stop stop stop and get on board this freight train before it crashes with you on it. We are here for you, let us help you. We want planet earth to come out of the quagmire; we are feeling sick for you. How and why would you want to live in this state? You are capable and worthy of so much more. It is time.

Love is the key. Love, love love. You need more love for SELF. By loving self more you will have a greater capacity to love others unconditionally. The love energy is the most powerful; it is this energy that creates. Let us all work together to create more love energy on this planet. You are more than capable. Work on thyself first and foremost and then let the changes begin. It is time and we have spoken.

Who are we? We are a collective of spirits called the Reincarnation of the Divine Illuminous Souls. We have channelled this message via Yvonne J Douglas – Starseed of the constellation Pleiades


What does it actually mean to be in denial? It means you are stating that something isn’t true even though it is true. You are in effect being like an ostrich and sticking your head in the ground in order not to see what is really going on.

Some people have a psychological defence mechanism (abnegation) where they go into a position of denial because something is too painful or uncomfortable to face. When one sits in a place of denial they can go on pretending that everything is ok, living in ignorance and refusing to look at the evidence. After a while living this way can have catastrophic results. Many can live in denial for years, sitting in what seems like a comfort zone but then realising they may be sitting in nasty, dirty, negative, unhealthy surroundings. Denial stops you from looking at self, stops you from dealing with your uncomfortableness, your pain, and quite frankly, your shit.

Being in a state of denial you will do almost anything to not look at; let’s call it, “your stuff”. You may eat and drink excessively, take drugs, lead a promiscuous life, party all the time, work long hours, obsess about housework, focus unduly on your children and your partner, extended family and friends. You are more interested in other people’s business but your own, so you keep busy, doing doing doing instead of just being. If you dare to stop and just be, you become frantic and fearful of what might present itself. However you are a “human being” not a human doing. You are a beautiful soul who does not deserve to be suffering endlessly. If you are constantly doing in order to avoid your stuff you will run yourself ragged and get ill.

Anything that you do not deal with on an emotional psychological or spiritual level will manifest as a physical illness or disease. This is called psychosomatic illness. An example of this is cancer which manifests due to the following reasons:

Feeling limited, angry, fearful, out of control.
Carrying wounds from the past.
Not feeling good enough, shrinking inside and attacking yourself from within.
Feeling like guilt, grief and uncertainty are eating away at your body.
On guard, never able to relax and let go.
Often pushing yourself to do more than you can handle.
Trying to please others and constantly seeking approval.

This is the general list for cancer (taken from the book – The Secret Language of the Body by Inna Segal); there are more specific reasons for each type of cancer but hopefully you get the point.

Do you see why it is so very important to come out of denial and look at self? Yes it may be scary, but you don’t have to do it alone. You need to love yourself and treat yourself as a priority. Learn to explore, get to know you, every part of you, the good and the bad. Shadow work can be so powerful, it helps you to accept, learn, let go, heal and grow.

When you come out of denial and start the process you will begin to see the magic happen; you deserve this! Staying in denial no longer serves you. We are living in a time where the planet is going through a thorough cleansing and healing process as part of the planet you too have to go through that process, because you are indeed connected.

How about your children, your grand-children and future generations? Don’t you want better for them? Don’t you want to break the unhealthy and dysfunctional family patterns that permeate through your ancestral lineage, past and present? Don’t your descendants deserve better? Do you want to continue in your denial and continue to see them suffer too? Surely not! How selfish would that be? You see, it’s not just about you it’s about your family and indeed humanity.

We cannot continually sit in denial and expect things to improve for us. We need to raise our own personal vibration and that in turn will help raise the vibration of humanity and the planet. Let’s face it, things just cannot continue the way they are can they?

Granted, we are all at a different points of our journey and that is absolutely fine. However, there comes a time when one has to start being the change they want to see in this world. We all have to start taking responsibility and do our bit in order for us to see global change.

So if your life isn’t how you want it to be, if your relationships are failing, if you are stuck, if your prospects are making you feel depressed, if your family is in disarray then what are you doing about it? Are you doing the same things over and over and expecting different results? If so, that is insanity! I’m sure you don’t want to be seen as insane, do you? So it’s time to do something about it. Time to act now. Don’t delay, because your mental, your physical and psychological health depends on you doing something now. Your children, your grandchildren are depending on you to act now and start making a difference. It’s time to cause some major shifts in your timeline in order to see lasting and permanent charge.

And remember you do not have to do this alone. If coming out of denial fills you with absolute dread then find someone who can help you on this next phase of your journey.

I run The Healing Sanctuary for women to help with this. It’s an intense, fast track and powerful retreat that gets you out of denial, causing major shifts and bringing about permanent change and healing.

For more details on this: click here.

If this format doesn’t suit you then contact me to discuss other options. Even if it’s not me, then please contact someone, anyone, and come out of denial. We are living in a state of emergency.
Please act now.

Love and blessings always

Protect Your Precious Empath Self

As an Empath I am more than just a highly sensitive person (as if that was not enough).  I have these amazing spiritual gifts, which include healing hands, clairvoyance, claircognizant, the ability to feel other’s pain and emotions and possess a  highly attuned intuition – spotting a liar is as easy as 1 2 3. OK, the flip side to all of this is that these sensitivities can sometimes get a little bit overwhelming, and that’s an understatement.  Along my journey I have learned to:

  • Accept myself as an empath
  • Embrace my gifts
  • Accept that I am more emotional than your average Jo
  • Trust my intuition
  • Trust that my gifts can be used for the highest good

Many of us Empaths have grown up as highly sensitive children, with our parents not understanding why we may cry for what seems like no apparent reason.  As a child, I couldn’t even bare for people to look at me for too long, it felt so painful, and I guess I was picking up on their pain but not understanding it one little bit.  I was at a BBQ in the summer and met this awesome little girl, she was about 2 or3 years of age.  For most of the time she just cried and as I watched and analysed her I realised she was an Empath; she didn’t like people getting too close to her, she was ever so clingy with her parents and when she was eating, she seemed so content and happy.  Yes, Empaths love to eat and in most cases use their excess weight as a form of protection from the onslaught of negative energies flying about the place.

Empaths are here for a very important reason, they have the ability to feel the collective human consciousness on deep levels; now that is a hard thing to have to deal with.  We need to learn to decipher which is our own ‘stuff’ other individual’s ‘stuff’ and what is the collective human consciousness ‘stuff’.  Learning this is when being an Empath stops feeling so overwhelming and less like a curse.  As an Empath, during Brexit and the USA presidential elections, we felt the lull around the globe when most felt dismayed at world events.  It was a tough time.  So, as Empaths we are here to heal, to help others as we all evolve and ascend into a higher vibration as this planet goes through its cleansing and ascension.

Due to these responsibilities as an Empath it is very important that you look after yourself. Your energies can be easily depleted as others cling to you and drain you of energy (some intentional and others not so).  Be very mindful of narcissists as they can spot an Empath from afar and will hone in, use, abuse and drain you.  Keep your guard up and ward them off.

So how can you protect yourself?

  • Meditate daily
  • Use crystals such as malachite, amethyst and tourmaline for protection; jade, lapis lazuli, turquoise & unakite
  • Trust yourself and your intuition
  • Visualise yourself in a protective bubble before leaving the house
  • Ask your guides for protection daily
  • Cleanse yourself and home with sage and/or frankincense regularly
  • Eat healthy foods
  • Work on your self-esteem & self-love
  • Set firm healthy boundaries with people
  • Be open to receiving just as much as you give (and we know you love to give)
  • Essential oils for Empaths:
    • Lavender – relaxing
    • Neroli – rebalance
    • Vetiver – calms nerves
    • Basil – combats fatigue
    • Chamomile – sleep aid
    • Jasmine – mood enhancer
    • Marjoram – calms emotional trauma
  • Personal & Spiritual development is important
  • Don’t be afraid to use your gifts for the highest good of others
  • Find other highly sensitive people and Empaths for close relationships & friendships
  • Put yourself first for once

It’s been a long journey for me in understanding who I am as an Empath, and I am still learning.  Most of my clients that sit before me do not realise that they are Empaths and in order to help them understand more about who they are and their experiences I point this out to them, and as time goes on they start to understand themselves more and their life starts to make more sense to them.

Now, because of the purpose of an Empath coming to this planet they are bestowed with these amazing gifts, but alas, they generally have some horrific life experiences, many of us Empaths come from a place of abuse, depression, neglect, great trials and tribulations.  I need you all to understand, that what does not kill you makes you stronger.  You are stronger than you think and you can get through whatever it is you have come here to experience, which are often the hardest lessons to learn. Learning these lessons and healing from your past is all part of the experience

So from one fellow Empath to another, stay strong, be good to yourself and embrace your truly amazing self.  If you need help and support I am a phone call away.  Let us Empaths rise up and help others to do so too, let us all shine our bright lights and give others permission to do so too.  Never forget who you are.

Love & Light


What is Love?



This blog does not give me time and scope to really explore this subject in great detail, so I will be succinct as possible. My thoughts on love are that it is definitely relative.  It is based on one’s experience, environment and conditioning on how one perceives love, shows love and accepts love.

There are different types of love which aren’t always explained and because of this we can sometimes get confused:

  • Agape – the love of humanity
  • Storge – family love
  • Pragma – love which endures
  • Philautia – self-love/respect
  • Philia – shared experience
  • Ludus – playful, flirting affection
  • Eros – romantic and erotic love

For a more detailed explanation of what each love entails check it out here:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201606/the-7-types-love

From a spiritual perspective love is unconditional when it is operating at its highest frequency.  That is not to say that one puts up with unacceptable behaviour because you love a person unconditionally, because do not forget the Philautia type love which is the greatest love of all.  When you love and respect yourself you accept and expect only the best.  When you are in this state of being you have more space to show love to others unconditionally.

Unfortunately, some people are unable to show and be love, for them they operate from the other side of the spectrum: hate.  When some shows hate they are acting out of a low vibrational emotion, they have yet to actualise and reach a place of inner peace.  The collective consciousness of humanity is displaying both dualities: love and hate.  Yes there is a lot of hate in the world, but also a lot of love which is less highlighted in the mainstream news.  This does not mean we have to believe that there is more hate in the world; I actually believe there is more love than hate.

The more you are able to be love in its fullest form the happier you will be and if everyone does the same, the collective consciousness of humanity would be remarkable.  Yes that is very idealistic of me to say, but you get my point.

We are all ‘of love’ we can all find the love in our heart if only we just tried harder and not give into hateful feelings and thoughts.  Yes we are all at different stages and we must accept that.  Some people have gone through horrendous journeys and are still processing, healing and growing.  Some of us, no matter what we go through still have a lot of love and compassion in their hearts and find it more difficult to show hate, so wherever you are at now, try to be more loving, accepting, and compassionate and forgiving. Yes, let’s make this world a better place.

Love and light always

The Passing of a Loved One

Remembering Granny

Remembering Granny


Sorry if you missed seeing my blog last week, there has been a lot going on of late and to top it all my gran passed away on the 13th of September 2016.   I want to dedicate this blog to my dear grandma.  She was a very strong willed lady; an independent and generous woman who lived for 91 years.  I am very grateful that I had the honour of knowing her for 48 years.  She leaves behind 2 children, 13 grandchildren, over 10 great grandchildren and at least 1 great, great grandchild.

As much as I am sad to see her go I am also happy that she is no longer suffering and she is now back with her creator and the ancestors whom I know have welcomed her spirit back with happy open arms.

My gran always encouraged me to enjoy my life and live it to the full.  One of her famous phrases as she got older was “once a man, twice a child”.  As I watched her get older and older, I realised what she meant.  I also realised how important it was to live life to the full because you don’t want to leave this planet having regrets.

Now my gran has left this planet I am comforted by the fact that her spirit lives on in all her family and that she is still with us in spirit.  She has already spoken to me from the spirit realm which again has given me a source of joy and comfort.  Death is not the end; it is just part of the cycle of life.  Our human existence is part of the process.  Being spiritual beings means we are infinite and having the human experience is only meant to be temporary. We are here to learn lessons, live our purpose, grow, develop and contribute to humanity.  Having this view makes dealing with the passing of a loved one so much easier.

As we celebrate her life and finally lay her to rest I want to thank her for her generous spirit, her kind nature, her resilience and her sense of humour.   May her soul rest in eternal peace, love and light.





When things aren’t working

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Where you are right now is where you are supposed to be. Sometimes in life we struggle and whine about things happening in the current moment. Things may not be going right and you may be feeling very frustrated with life and even with yourself. You may feel that you are doing everything wrong, you may even feel that nothing ever goes right for you and that you should know better etc etc etc.
At these moments of sheer frustration it is a good idea to just stop and think…..

What is this current situation trying to teach me?
What am I missing here?
If I take this route, as opposed to that route what could happen?
Am I moving too far away from my path?
What if I just let go of control?

Yes control, sometimes control can be so destructive and unproductive. Trying to control situations and even other people is what we try to do, to our own detriment. We cannot really control people, places and things, the only thing we can really control is ourselves and even then some of us have difficulty doing this. So what is the answer?

Surrender and Trust

Surrender to spirit and trust in divine guidance. You see, we all have spirit guides helping us on our path. They protect us, guide us and support us. In fact many are unemployed because so many of us are not connected to our guides and are now allowing them to be there for us. They so want to help and guide us if only we give them the chance. The new age of Aquarius is the time for spiritual awareness, time for the big awakening of humanity, time for real connection with spirit and for us to hone in and recognise how important our spirituality is; time to feed your soul in equal amounts to feeding your physical body.

Stop fighting, stop controlling and allow spirit to help you. Watch the miracles happen when you do.

Love & Light Always
Yvonne J Douglas